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Marriage Equality

Going to the Chapel and we’re gonna get married…

By now, I’m sure you’ve heard that the Supreme Court refused to hear the appeal cases for Wisconsin, Oklahoma, Utah, Virginia and Indiana.  This means that marriage equality in those states have won.  Virginia has already changed their forms.

This morning at around 11:30, I called the Racine County Clerk’s Office and spoke with Pat. She very sweetly informed me that yes, they were issuing marriage licenses to gay couples.  I cried.

I’m really torn and stunned by this.  I’ve overjoyed that Cheryl and I can now make it legal, but I wish my mom was still here.

For a very long time, my mother was against gay marriage.  We went round and round.  Then, one day, I either explained it better or she just gave up the fight, because she agreed with me.  For the rest of her life, at least once a month, she would say to me, “Why don’t they just let you get married?”

Now, they are letting us get married and she’s not here to see it.  In the year and four months, since she’s been gone, I don’t think I’ve missed her more.

So, now, Cheryl and I have to pick a date.  I think we’ve narrowed it down to two.  🙂

 

An Open Letter to My Fellow Gays

Dear Gay People of America;

I know that while we have been busy trying to secure our rights as human beings in America, Russia’s “President” (or, as I call him, Head Thug) has trampled all over gay people’s human rights.  Putin is threatening to arrest gay foreigners.

And, we’re not that far off from the Olympics being held in Russia come next February.  You would think the man would have better sense.  I believe all leaders of the free world should denounce the Thug’s actions.  We should boycott Russia Vodka, caviar and any other products they export.  We shouldn’t vacation there or do business with them until they grant the same freedoms to all of their citizens – not just the straight ones.

Yes, we should.  Yes, we can.  And, yes, we will.

But, let’s not cause any trouble at the Olympics.

Please.

The Olympics are not supposed to be political.  Let me repeat that:  The Olympics are not supposed to be political.  The Olympics is when all nations send their best athletes to compete in sports most of the rest of us pay no attention to during the time between Olympic games.  (Or, maybe, it’s just us Americans and maybe just some sports.

Still, let’s not get carried away and boycott the Olympics.  Let’s not ask our leaders to do so.

Despite what Senator Lindsey Graham (R-S.C.) thinks, boycotting the Olympics is wrong. It was wrong in 1980 when Carter did it (to protest Russia’s invasion of Afghanistan). It was wrong when Russia and other Communist countries did it in 1984. It would be wrong if we did it to appeal for Gay Rights or if we did it because Russia is letting Edward Snowden stay in their country, as Senator Graham wants done.

No politics at the Olympics.

Russia sucks.  Russia has sucked for quite a while.  They treat their citizens like crap.  They treat their parentless children like crap.  What do you expect?  That thug – Vladimir Putin – will always be nothing but a thug.  We should oppose him and thugs like him at every single turn – but not during the Olympics.

Hell, we didn’t even boycott Hitler’s Olympics.  We sent Jessie Owens over there and proved that race had nothing to do with ability.  (Although, we did leave with less medals.)

Let’s kick Russia’s butt in the Winter Olympics in 2014.

That’s better than any protest or boycott.

God Bless our American Athletes!  They rock and we should support them and allow them to compete on the world stage.

Indiana’s Unconstitutional Anti-Gay Law

According to Indiana law, which will take affect next July 1st, breaks the separation of church and state in a manner that is shocking:

IC 31-11-11-5
Solemnization of marriage in violation of this article
 Sec. 5. A person who:
(1) is authorized to solemnize marriages by IC 31-11-6; and
(2) solemnizes a marriage in violation of this article;
commits a Class C infraction.
As added by P.L.1-1997, SEC.3.

In other words, if you are legally capable of performing marriages in the State of Indiana and you perform a gay marriage, you commit a Class C infraction (“A person who commits a Class C misdemeanor shall be imprisoned for a fixed term of not more than sixty (60) days; in addition, he may be fined not more than five hundred dollars.*“)  Really? And, two sections down, there’s this:

IC 31-11-11-7
Solemnization of marriage between persons prohibited from marrying
Sec. 7. A person who knowingly solemnizes a marriage of individuals who are prohibited from marrying by IC 31-11-1 commits a Class B misdemeanor.
As added by P.L.1-1997, SEC.3.

If you perform a gay marriage, you commit a Class B misdemeanor, which can result in 180 days in jail and a $1000 fine*. I’d like to mention that this is not only against the Constitution of the United States of America – it is, also, hypocritical. One of the right-wing arguments against gay marriage is that it is against their religion (which isn’t true).  But, if they believe in religious freedom, how can they possibly support a law that restricts religious freedom?

Oh, who am I kidding?  Anti-Gay people would give up their own freedom in order to harm gay people.  They’re truly crazy!

So Called Christian Right

So, you joined a group that is fighting for freedom, but all it’s really doing is fighting gay marriage.  And, you vote for a politician because he believes in unfunding Planned Parenthood, again while claiming to be something you’re not – Christian.  You claim that you’re following Jesus, but you vote for politicians who want to make it harder to become a US citizen.  You claim to follow the Constitution, but you want to impose YOUR religious beliefs on the rest of us.

Sad, really.  The whole Taxed Enough Already crowd is full of hypocrites.  The Constitution supports the separation of church and state.  And, no matter how many times some wrong wing person wants to proclaim that we are a Christian nation, we’re not.  This isn’t a “Christian” nation and we weren’t founded on the Christian religion.  We even put that fact in a treaty in 1797.

As the Government of the United States of America is not, in any sense, founded on the Christian religion; as it has in itself no character of enmity against the laws, religion, or tranquillity, of Mussulmen; and, as the said States never entered into any war, or act of hostility against any Mahometan nation, it is declared by the parties, that no pretext arising from religious opinions, shall ever produce an interruption of the harmony existing between the two countries. ~ Article 11 Treaty of Tripoli

There are groups who dispute the Treaty of Tripoli.  They claim that George Washington never saw it, even though it was written during his administration, and when the Senate heard it Article 11 wasn’t there.  Sigh – sad, isn’t it?

Moving on to the whole point of this which is this: Stop being a hypocrite.  Stop supporting politicians who would rather give a tax break to a billionaire, than feed hungry school children.  If you want to show your love for Christ, then follow what He preached:

When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.

Then the King will say to those on his right, “Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.”

Then the righteous will answer him, “Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?” The King will reply, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” Matthew 25:31-40

Everytime a program that feeds the poor or clothes them – offers health care to them or just gives them a hand to help them help themselves is knocked down or cut by a politican, our country moves from Jesus’s right hand to His left hand. We move from being one of His sheep to being one of His goats. And, we all know how that story ended, right?

Then he will say to those on his left, “Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.”
They also will answer, “Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?”
He will reply, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.”
Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life. Matthew 25:41-46

I can hear the unrighteous (the ones who think they are righteous) speaking now, “But, I give to charity, so I’m good. We can’t have the government spending that money.” Oh, no? We can’t have the government taking our taxes, which is our money, and giving it to the poor? We can’t have that, but we can use religion to justify your hatred of gays? We can use religion to justify control of what a woman can or cannot do with her own body? We can use religion to go to war? We will vote for a politican who will give that money – our money – to an oil company in the form of a subsidy? But, we can’t take care of the least of us, which Jesus actually commanded?

If you don’t agree with gay marriage, fine – you have the right to your opinion.  If you don’t believe in a woman’s right to choose, fine – you have a right to that opinion, too.  But, don’t claim that your love of Jesus is why you don’t believe in the freedom of others, because you’re full of crap.  I know it and He knows it.

Gay Marriage: The Real Inequality

Last week, the US Supreme Court ruled that DOMA was unconstitutional.  That means that gay people in states that recognize or have gay marriage will have their marriages recognized.  This is good – for them.

For those of us who are gay, in non-legally recognized marriages and living in the wrong states, nothing has changed.  We still do not have the right to inheritance, hospital visitations and joint income tax returns.  It, also, means we don’t have the responsibilities and protections that marriage offers.

There are legal ways around this.  My wife and I have registered as Domestic Partners, so we have some of these rights.  And, prior to Domestic Partnerships being legal in my state, we had signed power of attorneys for health and legal matters.

BUT…

What we can’t do is file a marriage, filing jointly income tax return.  And, this is what burns my butt.

By myself, I will pay $12,260 in Federal Income Taxes in 2013.  My wife (who earns less than I do) will pay $2,978.  Together, that’s $15,238.  (This is based on the IRS Withholding Calculator.)  Using the same calculator, I calculated what we would owe if we could file as a married filing jointly couple and the amount is $13,901.  That’s $1,337 less than what we’re separately paying now.

I don’t think I’m receiving $1,337 in extra Federal Benefits, do you?  What am I getting for this money?  Why is MY marriage not recognize by the Federal government because a bunch of bigots didn’t want gay marriage nine years ago – and they won. (By cheating, the question was worded so that yes meant against gay marriage and no meant for gay marriage.  I can’t tell you the number of my friends who were happy it passed, because they couldn’t figure out the difference.)

In any case, we have a long way to go.

Gay Marriage Rights…

‎”Marriage is a tax shelter and a smart way for a couple to combine assets. Love is the thing that’s sacrosanct. The sooner we understand the difference, the sooner we’ll understand why Kim Kardashian’s wedding was never holy, and why countless gay couples around the United States who love each other despite marriage bans are truly righteous.” – Cord Jefferson

Jon Stewart Agrees…

I’m not alone, even Jon Stewart thinks Marcus Bachmann has something to hide.

“He’s so gay, he calls Top Gun that volleyball movie.”  I just love how Bachmann refers to the bi-curious as Barbarians (I’ve heard the whole “interview” and he’s talking about the bi-curious.)

Me think thee lady doth protest too much.

I’m better than you because I’m gay

Well, here’s a Michele Bachmann quote I can truly stand behind.  Finally, the woman speaks God’s truth.

“Normalization [of gayness] through desensitization. Very effective way to do this with a bunch of second graders is take a picture of ‘The Lion King’ for instance, and a teacher might say, ‘Do you know that the music for this movie was written by a gay man?’ The message is: ‘I’m better at what I do, because I’m gay.‘”

The emphasis is mine. And, it is so true. I am better at what I do, because I’m gay.

I have an amazing attention to detail. I am not distracted by the cute guys in the office. And, because I am happily married, I’m not distracted by the pretty women.  I have talent for the technical details and I am able to do the heavy lifting.

So, she’s right.  I am better at what I do, because I’m gay.

Quick Thoughts

Here’s some quick thoughts:

  1. The border between Israel and Pakistan should go back to the 1967 measurement.
  2. We should cut the $3 billion in aid to Pakistan TODAY.  Enough is enough.  They aren’t our friends and we should not be supporting their army.  $3 billion could do a lot of good in our OWN country.
  3. Speaking of domestic spending, our infrastructure is in need of a trillion dollars in repair.  If we concentrate on home projects, maybe we can get the economy back on track.
  4. Obama didn’t cause the economic crisis.  The stimulus has been helping the economy, but companies are making record high profits and not hiring people.  That’s (part) of the reason the recovery is so slow.
  5. Social Security can be saved and it isn’t broke.  Republicans want you to think the system is broke.  Fact is the surplus is in Treasury Bonds which are all coming due.  If people paid in on the whole salary, it would go a long way to pushing up Social Security’s solvency.  There’s more to it, but don’t be fooled by the doomsayers.
  6. We need to stop covering non-news in this country, but it won’t happen because crap sells.  I don’t care if the man sent an indecent picture of himself, as long as it wasn’t to a child.  I don’t care if the woman doesn’t really understand the ride of Paul Revere.  Neither of these things will bring jobs to our country. Covering this crap is just taking away from the real issues.
  7. And, finally, attacking gays and lesbians is NOT going to improve the economy.  It won’t fix Social Security.  GOP stop bringing it up.  We pay taxes, we serve in the military and we love our country.  We SHOULD NOT be treated unequally.  And, YOU should be more worried about what needs to be fixed that with whom I am sleeping.

Wedding Bells for Everyone

Have you ever gone to a wedding and heard someone whisper, “I give it six months”?

Have you ever been the one doing the whispering? Be honest now.

Well, I’ll be honest, I have.

I have known couples where I didn’t give them six minutes who are still together twenty years later. And, I’ve seen couples whom I thought were perfect for each other who split up.  My mother always taught me that you don’t know what goes on in someone else’s relationship. She isn’t often right, but she is in this case.

Which brings me to the topic at hand – gay marriage. How can someone actually think that not allowing marriage for gay people is protecting straight marriage? How can anyone in this modern age propose to decide who should marry and who should not?

Isn’t that the samething as sitting in a church and passing judgment on your fellow human being’s love? And, in passing this judgement, you don’t even know the couple!

Why do Boehner, Palin and the rest of the right feel the need to “protect marriage”? Why isn’t he out to protect civil rights?

How can we decide that one couple deserves protections and special tax breaks while another couple doesn’t? I don’t think I would want that much power over another person – to determine the love of their life. It is a decision that should be left up to the individual couple.

You really want to protect marriage – how about mandatory pre-marital counseling and making it harder to get a divorce. That might “protect” marriage.

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