I saw a posting about Sally Quinn’s July 29th’s opinion column in the Washington Post. Briefly, let me tell you what prompted this: Huma Abedin has forgiven her husband’s behavior. Who’s Huma Abedin’s husband? Anthony Weiner. Remember him? He had to give up his Congressional seat because he was sending illicit pictures of himself to women.
Now, Weiner is running for Mayor of New York. Personally, I don’t care. Really. If the people of New York want him as their Mayor, well, that’s between him and them.
Anyway, on July 29th, Sally Quinn apparently cares about Huma’s decision to “stand by her man”.
Though her friends say she is strong and resolute and defiant, sadly she makes all women look like weak and helpless victims. She was not standing there in a position of strength. It was such a setback for women everywhere. (Emphasis mine.)
I don’t want to judge Huma for sticking by her husband. I probably wouldn’t make that decision, but this isn’t my decision to make. Who am I to make a judgement on someone else’s marriage? Who is Sally Quinn to say that this is a setback for all women?
I don’t feel that I am any weaker because a woman in New York chose to stay with her unfaithful husband. I don’t feel that this is a setback to any issue in my life. If that was all Quinn said, I probably wouldn’t be writing this post. But, wait, there’s more!
Yet I can’t help blaming Abedin for condoning this behavior and allowing this charade to continue.
Quinn actually blames Huma for Weiner’s behavior. Are you kidding me? Poor Sally Quinn, she honestly believes that a man who has no respect for himself or his wife acts that way because his wife “condones” it. Isn’t that the same as blaming the bartender for serving an alcoholic a drink?
But, even Quinn is not to blame for feeling this way. I believe that we have slowly began playing the blame game for a long time. If a man (or woman) drinks too much in a bar, gets behind the wheel and kills someone – blame the bartender and the bar. If a woman goes out for a night on the town and is raped, blame the woman and not the rapist. If a young black man is walking home from the store, is followed and approached by a larger and more threatening male and is shot to death; blame the young black man and not the shooter. Congress isn’t passing any laws, they continue to try to repeal an unrepeatable law and, yet, they blame the President for our ills. States run out of money because they cut taxes too low, so we blame the teachers and their unions.
We love to lay the blame anywhere except where it should fall. Shouldn’t we put an end to this?
If your child is failing in school, don’t blame the teacher – blame your child.
If you don’t like where you are in life, while I believe we should have student loans and other aid to help, you are the only person who can make a difference in your life.
If Anthony Weiner takes pictures of his family jewels and sends them to women who are not his wife, he’s to blame – not her.
Let’s show a little personal responsibility, people.